Failure – what to do about it?

Failure – what to do about it?

In my opinion there is no such things as a failures, there are just results. But what one does with these results makes all the difference.  If one considers the results to be a failure then they are most likely not going to achieve much in life but if one chooses to think of these results as somewhat a success then at least they are aware that their goal and they just have to find a different way to get there.

Taking a failure and transforming it into a success is no easy task, which requires a disciplined mind and considerable fortitude. Hence most believe, and I emphasis on the word ‘believe’, are not eligible for this endeavor. However, those who do believe can follow a simple, but not easy solution to tackle the failure. The most important thing one must realize is accepting failure but believing it to be temporary, after that one can simply salvage anything from the failure learn from it; try to figure out the why and how of the failure, and if one has enough understanding of the it then give it another try or just simply move on to a different approach. There is no one absolute route to reaching a goal. There are as many as you believe there to be.

As mentioned before, tackling a failure or an undesired result, to keep one motivated since the word ‘failure’ discourages people, can be a tedious task. In addition to disciplined mind and strong fortitude, help is another important factor when dealing with failure. Many fail to realize the significance of help and choose to ignore it while pride often blinds people of this gift. Everyone needs some help at some point or points in their lives no matter how strong they are. In addition, some consider help as a sign of weakness which is a misguided notion. Asking or wanting help is not a sign of weakness but growth; one learns to utilize the all resources at their disposal. Moreover, one has people around to back him/her up and to provide motivation and encouragement. While all this helps those who wish to tackle with their failures, there are some who simply accept their failure as an end of their endeavor and do nothing about it.

This often happens when one does not have a strong fortitude or a patient mind, and the lack of assistance also plays a part. From their perspective, they are completely devastated and there is no hope of any sort of revival. And hence they choose not to indulge in it anymore. However, their perspective, although justifiable, is not the only one.  This realization, if it does not come on its own, must be provided from the outside-meaning outside from their perspective.

Although, in theory this all seems easy and accomplishable but in reality, as you can guess, it is completely of the charts. For something such as facing failure, reading a book or knowing the theory would not help them overcome their failures but it certainly comes in handy.

Social Work And Pre-Conceived Morality

Social work and volunteering has increased manifold in the past decade. What seemed to be the work of matured individuals and determined groups has permeated age barriers such that pupils of class 8th or 9th onwards have taken it up. Obviously with the increment in young and younger hands, the integrity and the incentive of social work have, although subconsciously and uncaringly, decayed.

 

Young minds, apart from the sporadic spurs of help and self-sacrifice of one’s time and self, primarily view not the essence of helping others, but the certificates they get in turn of prime importance. This is potentially why volunteers usually do not volunteer at one place twice, or at places that require assistance but do not fulfill the principles of quid pro quo by awarding the cherished certificate for their selfish endeavors.

Another contention between the intuitive scruples of social work and actual modern day social work is the act of publicizing even the smallest aid rendered. Perhaps it gives a sense of accomplishment; perhaps it is for the likes and shares and tweets and whatnot; perhaps for the virtual tap on the back.

Previously however, the affair had different set of rules. Belief in the secretiveness of social work was stern; certificates mattered less and just the selfless hour spent with people who needed it mattered more. Perhaps the charity that deserved the most accolades was the one which remained known to no one else.

This aforementioned notion seems morally fitting to the ultimate moral activity that is social work. But who is to applaud my endeavor when no one knows? Who is to learn from my actions if it is left inconspicuous? Who will join hands with me when they do not know what I have done? Is my moral compass truly correct when its directions do not allow me to help more people?

 

Why do we even help people? Is it because they require it or because their distress bothers us? If the case is latter, then it is not altruism but self-interest that we call morality because it is not their distress but the nagging feeling that accompanies us when we see them that we want eradicated. In such a case, we can easily implement our set of rules to this sport, and keep our activities secret and hence their effects minimal. However, if we do so because people require our help then we would attach incentives with social work such as certificates on community service or donation. This act would increase the volunteers and ‘philanthropists’, who although might be much more concerned with their welfare, in the act of getting to their own would inadvertently help others’. In the same way, not just certificates but facebook/twitter hype on even the pettiest of acts would seem justified as in this way a much larger stratum is helped out.

 

Perhaps our pre-conceived scruples and notions on morality are not correct. Perhaps morality has less to do with the sanctity of the affair and more with its stats.

Social Work – For The Poor or For One’s Esteem?

Florence Nightingale, or The Lady With The Lamp, who cared for injured soldiers; Abdul Sattar Edhi, a man whose life was consumed by the phenomenon of a welfare state and a struggle for it; Ziauddin Yousufzai, man who stood against the Taliban, educated girls in the Taliban dominant areas and made his daughter the mascot of his work.

The aforementioned people are all commendable, and form only a fraction of a more elaborate community of “social workers” who accept hardships for a bigger, noble cause. What is intriguing, is why do they choose this lifestyle.

Is it simply for the poor, or for one’s self esteem and guilty conscience.

Ziauddin Yousufzai was a born with a natural lack of rhetoric in his speech, he would stammer and never develop the charisma visionaries have. During his school days, he heard about a debating competition and asked his father to write a speech he could deliver, his father was reluctant, he jest at his son saying he would finish one sentence in years, let one deliver a speech. From there on he delivered more speeches, improved and became a social worker, a visionary and a owner of a multitude of schools teaching even more children.

Abdul Sattar Edhi was ridiculed for his thinking, and labelled. At a young age, his elders believed he would amount to nothing, image how would they have responded to his ownership of around PKR 100 crores of assets in the Edhi Foundation. His life was consumed by social work, he lives in a single room, leads an ordinary life, and calls himself a faqir (beggar).

In the present age of excessive social connectivity through the Internet, pretty much every act of oneself is unfulfilled till it goes online. Places are unvisited without a check-in, food is uneaten with out a filtered Instagram and most importantly, social good is rather ineffective till a figure is flaunted online.

The two respect worthy and selfless people above engaged in constant work for public good, never bragging their efforts online, or anywhere for that matter, while the occasional social worker has to post a thoughtful and flamboyant photograph on their Facebook, playing with words, trying to make sure their single effort would compensate for the lavish, selfish and carefree lifestyle during the rest of the year.

Ever Heard of Theodore Roosevelt? Probably. He was the 26th president of the US of A and a social worker.

Heard of Jane Adams? Probably not. She was from the same time and had a much larger role in the origin of social work in America.

Social work is supposed to have a liberating effect, one which fosters a sense of nobility, often too much to keep one down to Earth. What is unfathomable, is the apparent necessity to advertise oneself online after the slightest effort; this strikes me as the work of a politician.

Next time you move an inch for the downtrodden, question the wisdom of compulsively posting it online.